I’ve had days like you’ve had. You know which ones. The ones you HATE. But really, it’s not the day, nor does the feeling of having a bad day linger all day either.
Sometimes We Push The Wrong Button
It can come from many different sources, but for me it was due to the frustration of trying to work cooperatively with a banking institution on something that means a lot to you, like your home.
When something very important to you is not or appears not be taken seriously by others of whom you need cooperation from; that can challenge you beyond what a lot of other more trivial issues of which can be overlooked. If you’re like me you begin to think how can I benefit, survive and remove these negative feelings so I can again become the productive machine I was prior to having this incredibly awful situation. The answer for me was to notice the beauty of what was going on around me.
I did this by noticing my family and it was interesting because at first they thought I was not being nice to them, which was my reaction to what was happening to me. But then I began to focus on other more pleasant things without even knowing it. Like my dogs in the backyard playing with my daughter and my other daughter playing beautiful music on her keyboard.
My anger and frustration was completely gone even without knowing it, which was wonderful. The first answer that came to mind when I thought of the question of how do I turn my attitude around was to plow into self-help material, but the truth was I didn’t “feel” like doing it. And fortunately the answer came to me without even trying.
I realize that you may not be in an environment that can offer as much beauty as the one I was in to change your attitude, like an office. My suggestion is to place yourself in one by going outside or some other more appropriate and peaceful place that will facilitate your reaching a positive attitude and stay there until you achieve it. Take your mind off of your troubles and place your awareness on your surroundings instead.
The really neat thing about my experience is that I didn’t realize I had “survived” the situation in such a great way until nearly 8 hours later. I was just happy and peaceful during the time in between. Then it dawned on me what had occurred. I hope and wish this for you too.
Have a great week,
Kevin (Mister Self Help)
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Hi Nancye,
Thanks for sharing your story. It’s a good one and isn’t it amazing how other people can get under our skin sometimes :^)
I’ve heard that sometimes said “She does this to everyone”, and it’s too bad when someone is like that because they tend to hurt others and they can’t possibly feel any better after having done something like that. I suspect they are hurting inside and don’t know any other way to deal with it.
One thing I took away from your story and can easily say this because I wasn’t you in that situation is if something similar may come my way, I might try to keep in my mind the idea that maybe this person is having a bad day and even though she is mad at me for some reason that maybe I can keep my cool and just smile, wave and thank her for being so vocal about their feelings. Because it takes 2 people against each other to have difficulty. If one person doesn’t show any opposition towards the other person, then it’s possible the one person might turn around and be friendly towards you and if not, that’s ok too because you didn’t have to feel the stress of that persons actions.
Kudos to you as you found out the truth and it had nothing to do with you, but instead everything to do with the person who was coming after you. May she find peace as we all desire to do.
G-d bless,
Kevin
Kevin thank you for sharing with me. I too have found just looking around at the nice things is a way of solving in me its usually anger I suppose you could say frustration.As I was getting my wa;ker out of the van today a resident of the nursing home where I do volinteer Music therapy was coming up in her wheel chair. I said hallo and remarked are you out to enjoy some of this sunshine. That was it she lit into me for being in the wellie park for parking there all day ( I havbe a disability sticker and permission. Bawled m eout for not parking in th eparking area up the hill. I explained its hard for me to walk up hills soshe told me I should stay home I ha dno business working like that I shouldnt come at all. I lost it and informed her in no unsertain tones I didnt think sitting home getting depressed and she was lucky I wanted to come and give up my time to sing to the residents.Last I heard of her she was sharing with another resident her annoyance st me.I told the office about the incident and said I was fed upo with that attude from people towards me. Why shouldnt I do what I can while I can. Turns she does this to everyone. I told her off I guess. it upset me for v hours afterwards, Nancye
Thanks very much Marilyn and great to hear from you. Yes, I was amazed at how well it worked for me and I hope it works for you too.
I’ve become more calm to the whole situation now that I’ve become more seasoned to the situation. I’m growing through this experience and that’s a great thing.
Hi Kevin,
I understand how you fell when frustrated and having a bad day and not wanting to look in a self-help book for advice. Your suggestion sounds great to me so I will give it a try.
Best wishes,
Marilyn
Thank you Leila for your comment. It’s great to hear when you’re on target and we appreciate you stopping by. You are incredible!
Kevin
Hi Kevin, thanks for sharing your experience of transforming your bad experience into a good one. Sometimes it can be hard to find that space. You give a good example. Thanks again. 🙂